Boomkin (11:58:11 PM): yo dude, that ivy comes off as REALLLL bitchy
Boomkin (11:58:16 PM): just letting you know
This is where I tried to let him know that I didn't appreciate the insults and vulgar insinuations emanating from his guild leader. Notice the subtle informality that indicates that I'm not trying to make a big deal of it, but rather simply trying to bring it to his attention in a joking manner.
The Stubborn One (11:58:23 PM): Not to me, or anyone else
Boomkin (11:58:33 PM): haha, well, from MY perspective, she does
The Stubborn One (11:58:46 PM): from MY perspective she doesn't
Boomkin (12:00:51 AM): you're biased!
Again, you can notice the subtle humor in my tone and written mannerisms. Case in point: the "haha" and exclamation point indicate a joking demeanor.
The Stubborn One (12:00:57 AM): am i?
The Stubborn One (12:01:02 AM): So are you
The Stubborn One (12:01:07 AM): You dislike my guild
The Stubborn One (12:01:12 AM): and she be the Gm of it
Boomkin (12:01:16 AM): i don't dislike them, i simply think they're bad
Boomkin (12:01:18 AM): which they are
The Stubborn One (12:01:24 AM): same thing
At this point, he mistakenly derives that being a bad player and a bad person are equivalent statements which I will try to debunk.
Boomkin (12:01:28 AM): no, there's a difference
The Stubborn One (12:01:35 AM): very small none the less
Boomkin (12:01:36 AM): a mature person could understand the difference
Boomkin (12:01:42 AM): no, quite a large difference
Boomkin (12:01:49 AM): just because they're terrible doesn't mean that i don't like them
Boomkin (12:01:56 AM): their performance does not directly affect me
Boomkin (12:02:01 AM): so i have no reason to dislike them
The Stubborn One (12:02:11 AM): is that why you usually make janitor jokes about them
This "janitor jokes" is a reference to the one time that I inferred that one of his guild members was a janitor at a psychology ward because this particular guild member tried to argue inherently flawed pseudo psychological concepts with me. It turned out that I was right in my assumption and he actually was a janitor at a psych ward which had apparently given him the false authority that he had been portraying.
The Stubborn One (12:02:20 AM): or keep telling me to join a "Real" guild
The Stubborn One (12:02:26 AM): on a "Real" server
The Stubborn One (12:03:45 AM): notice the real
Boomkin (12:04:00 AM): because you're usually complaining about how you can't accomplish anything on your server
Boomkin (12:04:30 AM): the simple remedy to that situation is to move to a more skilled server where they can easily pug down the hardest content
I offered him a position in my guild out of sincere consideration for his self-efficacy and self-esteem because he is clearly missing an element which he deems important.
The Stubborn One (12:04:36 AM): because you keep mentioning how everything is easy mode on your server
The Stubborn One (12:04:53 AM): and i don't want to say my server is compleley crappy
Boomkin (12:05:04 AM): but you have trouble getting normal content down
Boomkin (12:05:07 AM): so it is crappy
Boomkin (12:05:12 AM): nazgel is one of the worst ranked servers
The Stubborn One (12:05:15 AM): Things are getting better
The Stubborn One (12:05:17 AM): 2nd
Boomkin (12:05:21 AM): it's suggested to "new" players
The Stubborn One (12:05:29 AM): we had alot of xfers
Boomkin (12:05:37 AM): because those people are smart
Boomkin (12:05:50 AM): nazgrel isn't an established server and any skill transfers away from it
The Stubborn One (12:06:23 AM): It'll get better in time
Boomkin (12:06:41 AM): if it follows its current trend, then it will only get worse
Boomkin (12:06:51 AM): and only a stubborn fool would stay on a doomed server
At this point in the argument, he would be foolish not to concede defeat as evidence of all of the rampant failure of his server is stated.
The Stubborn One (12:07:04 AM): Its not doomed
The Stubborn One (12:07:17 AM): I am not a stubborn follow
The Stubborn One (12:07:26 AM): My guilds getting better
Boomkin (12:08:32 AM): from my investigation of it, it's pretty shitty
Boomkin (12:09:05 AM): more than 75% of the people in your guild that i have encountered have no idea how to play their class or specs correctly
Boomkin (12:09:14 AM): they often gem wrong, spec wrong, and glyph wrong
The Stubborn One (12:09:20 AM): that was when?
The Stubborn One (12:09:23 AM): back in april?
Boomkin (12:09:28 AM): and have generally weak strategies that are doomed to failure
Boomkin (12:09:38 AM): no, when i was in there the other day
Boomkin (12:09:52 AM): that DK of yours was completely wrong in his decisions
The Stubborn One (12:10:29 AM): which Dk we have alot
Boomkin (12:10:55 AM): if i armoried your DKs, i would probably see that all of them are wrong
The Stubborn One (12:11:06 AM): in your opinion
The Stubborn One (12:11:11 AM): doesn't make them wrong
Boomkin (12:11:28 AM): playing correctly isn't an opinion, it is a fact
The Stubborn One (12:11:42 AM): and whats correctly?
The Stubborn One (12:12:19 AM): I don't know anything about Dk DPS
The Stubborn One (12:12:21 AM): or tanking
Boomkin (12:12:29 AM): and i do, and that guy was wrong
The Stubborn One (12:12:52 AM): what if he wasn't
The Stubborn One (12:12:57 AM): and how do you know?
Boomkin (12:13:18 AM): i know because i actually research the class and pay attention to new methods
Boomkin (12:13:38 AM): i know because my guild is a top guild in the world and my server is a top server in the world
Boomkin (12:13:57 AM): my guild does all hard modes with ease because our players are good and know what they're doing
Boomkin (12:14:05 AM): can you say the same for your guild and its players?
Boomkin (12:14:23 AM): and until you can, then you would be a fool to not concede this argument
The Stubborn One (12:14:37 AM): I'm done with this argument
Boomkin (12:14:46 AM): so then you concede?
The Stubborn One (12:14:51 AM): This is you bashing my guild because we aren't Hard core.
The Stubborn One (12:14:59 AM): Because we don't do hours of research.
At this point, he blatantly admits that his players do not know what they're doing and that any semblance of knowledge, is in actuality, a series of mismatched ideas of concepts and any successes are based upon over-gearing content and mere luck.
The Stubborn One (12:15:10 AM): I do not.
The Stubborn One (12:15:16 AM): I exist
I honestly don't know why he thinks that if he is wrong that he will no longer exist. He has an odd outlook on existentialism to say the least.
Boomkin (12:15:17 AM): no, it's you arguing that you're not bad when you are
Boomkin (12:15:24 AM): i never said that you're bad people, just bad players
Boomkin (12:15:28 AM): you do not understand the difference
The Stubborn One (12:15:35 AM): and you wont drop it.
Boomkin (12:15:39 AM): if i said that you sucked at baseball, would you get so pissed?
Boomkin (12:15:48 AM): i mean, you're clearly not a professional baseball player
Boomkin (12:15:58 AM): the point is that you shouldn't argue or think i'm calling you guys bad people
Boomkin (12:16:07 AM): you're just bad players, and there's no reason to take offense to that
Boomkin (12:16:15 AM): you've never said that you're a progression based guild
I specify here that if he had actually been in a guild that deemed itself a progression guild, then he could easily and most deservingly take offense to me calling him and his guild bad players. However, his guild is definitely not playing to be one of the best, they're simply playing to enjoy the game and there is certainly nothing wrong with that. Although, he has no right to claim that he and his ragtag bunch of guild members are good players in the purest objective sense of the term.
The Stubborn One (12:16:16 AM): you make it look like that
Boomkin (12:16:24 AM): so there's no reason to take offense to being called bad at the game
The Stubborn One (12:16:31 AM): you make it look like bad player= bad person
The Stubborn One (12:16:48 AM): your tact needs work
I admit that I am not the most tactful person in the world, but I believe that I was tactful in my delivery of the statement that they are bad or rather in defending my point of it when my brother had brought it up to them as I would never outright call him and his entire guild bad unless provoked first.
Boomkin (12:16:53 AM): how do i make it look like that when i'm the one who has clearly laid out the formal logic of bad player =/= bad person
Boomkin (12:17:02 AM): you're simply following in the wake of my logic
The Stubborn One (12:17:11 AM): not really
Boomkin (12:17:16 AM): yes, most certainly
The Stubborn One (12:17:43 AM): whatever
The Stubborn One (12:17:45 AM): i am done.
I implore anyone reading this post to take note of yourselves when arguing to make sure that you always do it with a sound mind and the utmost rationality. It is important not to let raw emotion seethe throughout your being or you may lose control of yourself and do something foolish. I also implore you to always make concessions in order to work toward a common goal with the ultimate goal of cooperation in sight otherwise mistakes could be made that could have been easily mitigated or avoided all together. If we lacked our rationality, we would wholly relinquish that which innately grants us our humanity and, we become wild things.
To say that you are not particularly tactful implies that you have some degree of tact to work with; I see very little evidence of it in the above conversation. You came off as tenacious and rather rude, not to mention the irony of indicating that your brother is the stubborn one.
ReplyDeleteA cursory scan of the Armory and WoWProgress suggest that you are not in fact a member of a top world guild. To you, your guild may be amazing...but there will always be someone better who views you and yours with the same scorn that you are visiting upon your sibling and his guild.
Your brother very obviously feels judged by you, and a wiser person would recognize that and switch tactics. Rubbing it in his face the way you are seems to serve only to agitate and repulse him.
Those are my two cents; ignore them as you wish.
In this conversation, I may not have been very tactful, but when engaging in conversation with one such as my brother, the subtleties of tact are entirely lost. The tenacity and rudeness that you are sensing in this conversation are a direct reflection of the rudeness in his vent; and the tenacity is rather unavoidable as the way he confronts conflict will often escalate the situation due to his excess rage. He often takes the simplest talking points and escalates them into some ridiculous overbearing argument and refuses to make even the smallest compromises.
ReplyDeleteAs far as my guild goes, I realize that we are no longer one of the top 300 guilds in the world, but I remain one of the top 20 boomkins as you can see from my various record parses in progression and previous content. If I so desired, I could easily apply and be accepted into any of the top 50 U.S. guilds.
As far as his feeling judged goes, I can attest that he feels judgment from practically everyone he knows which in turn decreases his already low self-esteem. It seems that whenever I talk to him, he always finds a way to bring up his guild, wishes they were better, and then begins an argument about how I'm elitist and he doesn't want my help. However, I find it odd that he reaches out only to then bury himself further in his self-doubt and delusions. I will continuously strive to help him in any way I can as I always have and this will make me the perpetual bad guy; but, I'm willing to do this if it means that his life is even slightly better.
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